The second half of our kindness elves stay was not as exciting. At Lucille and Lennon’s young ages it just wasn’t exciting after about 5 days. Oh well. Next year they’ll understand better. Anyways, here were our activities days 7-12.
Day 7: Spread Christmas cheer by singing Christmas carols
Day 8: Help mommy cook dinner (Lucille had a lot of fun with this one!)
Day 9: Help mommy send out Christmas cards
Day 10: Surprise a friend with a visit
Day 11: Bring some popcorn to NayNay’s house for a Christmas movie night
Day 12: Learn about the holidays being celebrated by those in other cultures (we had an Elmo DVD to help us with this.)
That’s it for this year. I’m sure Eira and Shep will be back next year repeating some of these assignments and giving us some new ones. I can’t wait!
This year Santa sent our family 2 adorable little kindness elves to help the kids to be thoughtful this holiday season. Their names are Eira and Shepherd and they will be with us for 12 days. I wasn’t sure how well my kids would understand, but they are actually really excited about their daily letters and “assignments”. It’s been a lot of fun to watch so far.
Of course since they’re so young (Lucille is not yet 3 and Lennon is a little under a year and a half) their letters have talked about some pretty simple things. I thought I’d share what the elves have asked our family to focus on the first half of their stay.
Day 1: We wrote letters to Santa Clause thanking him for sending us our Kindness Elves.
Day 2: We went shopping and picked out stocking stuffers we thought Daddy would be excited to find on Christmas morning.
Day 3: We had to share our Christmas cookies (that were being eaten way to fast) with a friend.
Day 4: We had to do something extra nice for our cat. (This also came with a reminder of how lucky we are to have animals because so many kids ask for pets every year but Santa can’t give them animals because their parents don’t want them to have them. This was due to the elves observation that Lucille wasn’t being nice to our cat the past couple days.)
Day 5: Have to make things fair… Do something extra nice for the dog today!
Day 6: Color a picture for someone you love!
I am a big believer in putting into the universe the type of energy you want to get back. For this reason, I always try to dwell on the positive. In life it’s not always easy. On my social media though, it’s always sunshine and butterflies. I am so super grateful for my kids and I want the world to see how happy, sweet, smart and fun they are. I don’t want the whole world to see that sometimes I feel like I’m drowning and that I haven’t had a decent night’s sleep in 3 years. But that is a very real side to this journey.
Lennon is 17 months. I really thought by this age he’d be done breastfeeding, or close to it. He’s not. He still wants breast milk to be his primary source of nutrition. Every time I think we’re making progress and he’s eating real food better, then he stops and it gets worse than before.
Hand in hand with this problem is he’s still up a ton every single night. I breastfeed him on average 5 or 6 times a night. This translates to me never getting more than an hour of sleep at a time. I know that he is probably waking up so often because he’s hungry, he barely eats real food. But I don’t know how to make him eat!!
Lucille showed an interest in potty training very early. But I was juggling a newborn at the time and kind of put it off. For several months now I’ve been trying to get her interested again, and she simply isn’t budging. Her cousin and best friend, Allison, who is 3.5 months her junior is almost 100% potty trained, but that doesn’t phase Lulu one bit. I thought maybe an exciting new potty might help, so she picked out a princess toilet seat that I can put on our toilet. She doesn’t want to go potty on it though. She wants to snuggle it. Fantastic. (Obviously, now that it’s been placed on our real toliet I have not let any snuggling happen.)
Back to Lennon.. he’s definitely my problem child at the moment… he has become very violent. And I’m completely stumped by it. He hits me all the time. And punches. And kicks. And bites. And I have no idea where he gets this behavior from. He’s home with Lucille and me all day, so I can’t blame a brat at daycare. Lucille has never been violent. None of our play date friends are excessively violent. We don’t watch anything violent on television… it’s a mystery. But wherever it came from, I need to put a stop to it. And that has me even more stumped.
I don’t want to complain about my kids. I love them more than anything. And we’re going to make it through every challenge we face. But I’m writing down what our biggest battles are right now just to acknowledge that there are battles. And it’s totally normal to sometimes be overwhelmed and discouraged. And yes, some days, I let those feelings take over. I’m not proud of it. But that’s the reality of motherhood. I think I’d have trouble relating to a mother who didn’t feel this way from time to time.
Lennon eating! A miracle!